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Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!

Posted: October 12, 2010
Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!
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Adam talks about the recent incidents of violent bullying and compares it to behavior in online multiplayer games.

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  • Gamedude90

    Go stuff Sessler. I hate when people start cussing and using inappropriate words. Just to reply to some people saying that it's just the internet that we should get over it or that if 10 year olds are saying stuff to you that you deserve to feel like crap. It'S not always 10 year olds that are saying stuff. I have played with many people that you can tell are older and they say stuff too. Also I agree that you shouldn't take everything that you hear or read online to heart. The thing is that you have to realize is that there are people that would. Many people suffer from depression and also they are people that have been told soo many times that they weird or whatever, that they can't seem to know what the difference is between and insult online and an insult in the real world.

    I wish I wa sthe type of person that would step in and tell whoever is being a douche to stop, but I don't. The reason why I don't is because I know if I say one word against that person I am the one that is going to have to deal with whatever stupid thing they feel like saying. And not just that but also there will always be people that, "just so that they can be cool" to a bunch of strangers online, will step in an join the douche. So you can't win. I just hope that one day people will think about what they say and stop saying all the crap. But I only see that day coming when people are forced to use their real self online or when you can automatically label that person as a douche.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 3:00 PM
    Gamedude90
  • ZzZEVOLUTIONZzZ

    First off let me just say I am a long time viewer of your soap box as well as feedback and they are great shows with a lot of content/opinions. I made an account on G4tv.com just to say THANK YOU! Where I live internet bullies run rampant, and 4 people at a local high school have commited suicide because of these bullies for being gay or for just being a sexually active teenager. It saddens me to hear about these sort of things that could have been stopped if someone just stepped up and stood with them and said ENOUGH IS ENOUGH LEAVE THEM ALONE! I play halo reach quite a bit and i used to have my sound settings where I could hear everyone. However after being verbally assaulted by people from the other team I have since muted the other team. This sort of thing does not belong in our society. I salute you sess and your efforts to get this message out to the public.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:58 PM
    ZzZEVOLUTIONZzZ
  • ZzZEVOLUTIONZzZ

    First off let me just say I am a long time viewer of your soap box as well as feedback and they are great shows with a lot of content/opinions. I made an account on G4tv.com just to say THANK YOU! Where I live internet bullies run rampant, and 4 people at a local high school have commited suicide because of these bullies for being gay or for just being a sexually active teenager. It saddens me to hear about these sort of things that could have been stopped if someone just stepped up and stood with them and said ENOUGH IS ENOUGH LEAVE THEM ALONE! I play halo reach quite a bit and i used to have my sound settings where I could hear everyone. However after being verbally assaulted by people from the other team I have since muted the other team. This sort of thing does not belong in our society. I salute you sess and your efforts to get this message out to the public.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:58 PM
    ZzZEVOLUTIONZzZ
  • Gamedude90

    Go stuff Sessler. I hate when people start cussing and using inappropriate words. Just to reply to some people saying that it's just the internet that we should get over it or that if 10 year olds are saying stuff to you that you deserve to feel like crap. It'S not always 10 year olds that are saying stuff. I have played with many people that you can tell are older and they say stuff too. Also I agree that you shouldn't take everything that you hear or read online to heart. The thing is that you have to realize is that there are people that would. Many people suffer from depression and also they are people that have been told soo many times that they weird or whatever, that they can't seem to know what the difference is between and insult online and an insult in the real world.

    I wish I wa sthe type of person that would step in and tell whoever is being a douche to stop, but I don't. The reason why I don't is because I know if I say one word against that person I am the one that is going to have to deal with whatever stupid thing they feel like saying. And not just that but also there will always be people that, "just so that they can be cool" to a bunch of strangers online, will step in an join the douche. So you can't win. I just hope that one day people will think about what they say and stop saying all the crap. But I only see that day coming when people are forced to use their real self online or when you can automatically label that person as a douche.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:58 PM
    Gamedude90
  • siloeyes

    Kudos to you, Mr. Sessler. Very well said, and I can only wish I could've seen a video like this back in my grade school days to help inspire me and keep my head up. I still managed and definitely made it to where I am knowing all those who gave me a hard time back then won't amount to nearly as much as I have. Hopefully some gamer kids suffering from the same kind of hardships will see this and be able to carry on further.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:56 PM
  • rikkuster

    I think it's absolutely disgusting to hear people talking like that on Xbox Live. I don't play online much myself but I often watch my roommates play and it's really irritating to hear all the bashing. To anyone who watches this video: it truly gets better once you are out of high school. For the most part people are generally more mature and accepting.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:56 PM
    rikkuster
  • kyoput

    I was bullied as a child. I was also a bully as I grew older. It always has been an always will be a part of childhood. I believe the reason it has become such an upfront issue is because of the age we live in now. It's not like there has been an increase in the frequency of bullying. It's just an increased ability to document and share news on these events that has changed.

    But this may have also led to an increase in the severity of the bullying. Where as before, the bullying was a very local thing, it can now be broadcast to the world on Youtube. That is a new phenomenon that I am so glad didn't exist when I was in high school. Having your social life ragged on by fellow students is tolerable in many cases. But when they broadcast your personal shame to the whole world, it crosses a line from bullying to epic slander and a maliciousness we know exists in all children.

    The online bullying can, i agree, be just as bad. Especially for pre-teens who still may not be the most adept socially. I try very hard to limit my verbal punches to people 17 and older. I find it cowardly and pointless to tease a child. First of all, they barely get any of the jokes but more importantly, they tend to take things far more seriously than an older teen or young adult. I mean, "yo mama" jokes are fine. Every kid past the 4th grade is tellnig those but let's try to not step beyond that line.

    And if you gotta use an "F word" go for the one ending in "k", not "T". If you don't wanna be a snitch or you don't feel like taking up for other people, at least limit your own aggression. At the end of the day, these are people just like you trying to have fun just like you. We all know you're clever. We all know you're the coolest person in your school. What I'm saying is, can' that be enough? Do you have to make it everyone else's issue too?

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:55 PM
    kyoput
  • jaespur21

    adults need to stop it as well. I heard some guy i was playing horde on gears a couple months ago, argue with a kid for over 5 minutes when i couldnt take it anymore. If youre and adult, you should never lower yourself and argue with a 12 year old. either way you lose, I hate it when adults get into shouting matches with little kids. at 29 it just turns me away from even putting on a headset

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:55 PM
    jaespur21
  • wigoff91

    Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you?!

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:54 PM
    wigoff91
  • pinicilin

    Food for the thought!!!

    Internet change communications as we know it, unfortunately it give outlet for many crazies to have much wider audience then people within shouting range. It also allowed them to be too far for fist to the teeth contact. This have greatly affected number of ars#oles we encounter daily. It is fairly rare to actually meet the ars#holes you encountered online, I had an opportunity to meet 2. What I found was what I suspected. People doing this usually have issues - too dumb, too weak, too ugly :) for which they try to compensate being ars#holes and hiding behind anonymity and perceived lack of repercussions. From life experience I also learned that in general, successful, capable, smart and good looking people usually dont need to get off by downing someone else. So the more ass#olish you are, the less successful you are as a human being, this is a rule of thumb. If someone bullies you online, you should feel sorry for them as there problems most likely much larger then yours >:)

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:53 PM
    pinicilin
  • SolomonGrundy

    Perfectly said Adam!

    I've noticed that many of the taunting bullies will shut-up once they are challenged by someone who is calm over voice chat. Sometimes they'll just start taunting the reasonable person too. At that point the reporting function should be in full affect like you mentioned.

    Perhaps we need a new system of muting. Something along the lines of: When you mute someone they get publically visible flag for obscene or abusive language or threats after so many mutes. After that set number of complaints the person loses mic ability in online games for a set period of time? also if everyone in a particular game mutes a single person they lose mic privilages for the next round and are notified they've been muted?

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:50 PM
    SolomonGrundy
  • Luck702

    The kids that are overly obnoxious on xbox live only do that because theere too scared to ever talk like that to somones face. Oh, and if you think this is bad on xbox, try play pc games like counterstrike. It Really is way worse.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:49 PM
    Luck702
  • thePcgamer

    I wanna write into you adam but idk if i should. i mean yeah i used to have those days but recently ive been pulling through it. Idk, life's confusing right now..

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:48 PM
    thePcgamer
  • michaelkittel

    Preach it Sess!!

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:48 PM
  • The_Homar

    Mr. Sessler, thank you. I only wish more people listened to your reason. I mean when I play online now which is a rarity in and of itself I have to mute everyone or go into a party with just my friends because it is impossible to find anyone that is remotely civil it seems that nothing is of limits to these idiots, but that does not mean they don't have their staples like gay bashing and racial epithets. The thing is they prove they are unintelligent by using those words and phrases because it prove they know nothing about the word they are using or its etymology or if they do they are complete sociopaths and either way they have bigger issues than video games and should stop bring down the reputation of video games.

    A message for the "silent majority" being silent is no longer an option stand up for what you know is right and stamp out this bigotry. Don't let those who are less fool you that they are bigger just because they are louder.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:47 PM
    The_Homar
  • Bogues

    The thing with bullying and foul language on Xbox Live/Psn is that there's a mute button. If you compare someone yelling foul language at you every few games that can be muted in a few seconds, versus some kid who goes to school and gets bullied by the same kid(s) everyday, it becomes quickly apparent that bullying in life is a much more serious issue. Of course, if there was a way to remove the many foul mouthed bigots online, I'd be all for it, but as a society we need to prioritize.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:46 PM
    Bogues
  • Vesuvian Ast3r1x

    Now see there a problem I'm seeing repeatedly, people are saying that 10 year olds playing CoD are one of main contributors to the online dick nation. BUT, what is a10 year old playing CoD in the first place? Since Games like that carry the "M" rating that's 17+ for those who don't know.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:42 PM
  • PB_theGreat

    Thumbs up! Adam, I too feel that as an older, reponsible gamer, who's getting up in his years that the bullying in society has no place in gaming. Especially more because of the recent events where these individuals contemplated and carried out their darkest fears where they committed suicide because they were been tormented because they were gay. It looks like people in general these days are being hounded regardless if they're a genuinely sociable person or maybe not in high esteem around company. Ever since we've had the need to find respite from the bigotry, predjudice, and hate from people who have no clue who the offended party actually is. Have people's minds gotten so cluttered with the grandiose expectations of celebrity and other people's opinions of them being in a perfect light so far that they can no longer behave in an acceptable manner finding social acceptance even in their favorite pastime gaming? Have we become clueless to believe that even in the gaming arenas there is a power struggle to be the top dog? And becsuse of that goal exsisting that we'll unabashedly destroy people's reputations until we clutch that virtual prize. For the younger children, teenagers and adults living in today's world it's becoming harder to cope with the daily struggles to be liked. We've all recieved more or less than constructive criticism in our lives. It's much more difficult for a pre-pubescent person to simply put all of the negative comments aside and continue gaming, or going to their favorite internet message board when these attacks have been hurled at them. It takes courage and leadership skills to stand among their peers to not harp insults upon someone whose been branded a social outcast. In the midst of from the smack talk or all lack thereof due to unplugged headsets, when I play. A large amount of insults which have been hurled at me from the biggest jerks who have all the kill streaks, medals, awards or know the maps like the back of their hands, still do not recognize that thier actions will have consequences. I've been called everything under the sun, by self-proclaimed d#c#s' regardless of my gaming expertise. Even the best intentions to get that gamerscore up in MP matches in Halo 3 and Gears of War 2 there's too many uncultured, uncooth, brutes out there chastising/tormenting other players out there over God knows what. Don't these people realize that the other ppl out there are human beings with dreams, goals, fears, etc..? The point is, bullying with never be cool in gaming and everywhere else. If you don't have anything good to say, don't say it all. The adage still holds true and with more companies engaging into the social networks of this day and age more emphasis is being being placed on who you are outside of work, school-because the internet still isn't safeguarded completely from the malicious intentions of a few. Very poignant soapbox Mr. Sessler. For those who've been empowered to go the extra mile and tend to the the injured, we need to draw the line against bullying, cyber or neighborhood. Wouldn't it be cool to get a panel discussion with everyday gamers who've gone through this with the feedback staff, game developers who aren't ashamed to share ups and downs with the gaming community. I too applaud those who aren't afraid to drop the banhammer on the d*c8s out there. I'm more than happy to kick a player for mouthing off quicker than their refusal to work as a team or even communicate team strategies with me. Although I haven't been the host of multiplayer party in a while. When are people going to stand up save lives instead of destroy them? We have a voice we're not just nerds/geeks, we live in this world too. It saddens me that so many people would just sit there and do nothing. Life will go on. My condolences to the families of the people who were targeted and took there lives. That's why video games have an off button. Because we just need to be able to chill, and recognize that we're not the only ones who's gone through this stuff. Again great soapbox Adam, kudos!

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:41 PM
    PB_theGreat
  • topgamer101

    Bullying in general is something that needs to be worked on more, not just by students, or teachers, or parents, but everyone in general.

    The youth part of it is always difficult cause most of them are just idiots with an ego issue and it's hard to knock them down a peg. Many people write this stuff off when they hear about it thinking "Well I turned out alright" but people always forget one very important thing...

    Other people are not the same as you.

    We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses. What one person is good at or capable of dealing with, another isn't. We need to remember these things and try to be more understanding and attempt to be more helpful. I'm not the best at it but I do try, and I'll continue to improve.

    Thanks for the PSA Sess, always a pleasure.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:40 PM
    topgamer101
  • JustTheBeginning

    I was thinking, perhaps video games should include an in-game audio recorder via inside a grief report. So when you hear a bully, you file a grief report which you can then record a 30sec clip of the accuser, that way they can actually ban people. As of now I believe there is no way they can confirm someone was being a jerk 2 weeks ago on MW2. It should also be a 3 strike system, everyone makes mistakes so first offense is 1-5 days, 2nd is 1 month, and 3rd is a 1 year ban.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 2:39 PM
    JustTheBeginning
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