Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!

Posted: October 12, 2010
Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!
Adam talks about the recent incidents of violent bullying and compares it to behavior in online multiplayer games.

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  • scouirgie

    i totaly agree. How are we as gamers going to defend the industry with dumb people trashtalking out ther. i swear 1 out of every 3 halo games i play thers always someone who feels the need to say "oh get raped" or some crap like that. its like really! to u need to say that stuff its just a game and its apatent u one whats the point of sayin it. i mean i know most of the time its an outlet for a tormented soul that has nothing in his life and really needs a friend and a sucker punch but really dont push ur problums on other people it only creats more problums. thank Adam for this btw

    Posted: October 12, 2010 8:10 PM
  • Darkpuppy

    Wow, a MOST fantastic use of your segment Adam. Thank you for bringing in your character and your position to such an under viewed topic. Being alienated at school or work and then also having to put up with it in an online environment means some people have no avenues of escape from these pathetic people.

    When I used to play WoW I have many a time kicked people mid raid for not heading to a warning about their language and manner in which they talked to other players, sometimes even guild kicked. YOUR anger at a situation does not give you the right to vent it at someone else in a manner that is directed to hurt or humiliate them. It s neither productive nor constructive in the way it makes people play or think.

    If you don t think you are homophobic, racist or sexist or even classist, but you are not willing to stand up to people that are, even in a digital realm then your allowing it to continue uncontested and unpunished.

    Do the right thing quit their game, kick them from yours, block or ban them from your social network, send them a message they are the ones that are alone and different!

    Totally right about it only being for that time, you will get past it you will get over it, you will find people that both care and help. Stick in there, the more of you/us/we that do the better things will be. TIME, hold in it will pass.

    Cheers to Adam. +++

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:49 PM
  • shanksam

    Adam, your opinions on this subject always leave such an impression because I feel like it is the exact message i'd like to broadcast if I had a camera and a popular internet video series. I want to thank you for being the voice of compassion and love as a representative of this form of entertainment that usually brings to mind pubescent douchebags seeking attention, even if it's incredibly negative attention. Just like you said I think those that are doing the right thing should turn away from their meekness and take the offensive in this fight against the outspoken trash talkers of internet gaming. You are greatly appreciated.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:35 PM
  • ilovemyjeep

    Thanks Adam. You make me proud to be a gamer.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:28 PM
  • linc77

    My high school has been doing things constantly about bullying. A video and speaker at least twice a week. I dont usually get picked on because im a pretty big guy and im too lazy lol to bully other kids. But i can see that its helping... especially for the younger and socially awkward kids they just seem happier. And people! seriously just saying "hey whats up (insert name here) whats goin on" goes a long way

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:23 PM
  • mitchthestitch

    I bet if microsoft made people by there mic these foulmouth little kids couldn't pony up the dough to buy one, then maybe we could cut down on there numbers.

    I grew up with a kid in school who had autism. He had certian words and phrases that would set him off and make him go crazy. My brother and a few friends got tired of people picking on him and formed a sort of anti-bully group. Most of us were in the "in" crowd so we could often use that social status to get people to leave other people alone. One thing that frustrated me was that every year there was a new batch of people entering school who tried to pick on the autistic kid(Shane is his name) abd we'd have to scare them off. I think we need more roving gangs of anti-buly bullies. Btw Shane has an epic beard and I'm jealous of it, and I still love that guy.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:15 PM
  • Bonzoso21

    Very timely and poignant Soapbox. The amount of common, everyday douchebaggery going on seems to have really gotten out of hand in recent years. Xbox Live chat became so obnoxious to me over time that I eventually went on the site and turned off chat with all non-friends--now I don't have to worry about loudmouths with mics, but it's also unfortunate because gaming is one of my biggest hobbies and it would be nice to be able to be a member of a mature community that shares that interest without having to have it spoiled by the small-minded folks who can't grasp the reality of the modern age: that you should portray yourself online the same way you'd portray yourself to a stranger you met in person.

    The recent suicides are sad and tragic, to be sure, but if all this national media coverage can lead more people to realize that derogatory words and verbal intimidation actually do cause tangible, measurable harm, than maybe there will be a silver lining in the end.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:12 PM
  • Luke_nx01

    Great stuff as always.

    I will say this though, there seem to be many more dicks arround online than normal people... mainly I think because people like me (for whom cursing is still well cursing and not daily vocabulary) at least in my case just gave up playing the game. Admittedly for many reasons, but the multitude of jerks was high on the list.

    Fact is too many idiots arround ruins a games online appeal.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:10 PM
  • brettcook

    great soapbox i was one of those a holes who made life hard for kids who were not the same as everyone else until people like you showed me how much of an a hole i was and made me want to be a better person

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:06 PM
  • brettcook

    great soapbox i was one of those a holes who made life hard for kids who were not the same as everyone else until people like you showed me how much of an a hole i was and made me want to be a better person

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:06 PM
  • FearlessJDK

    As ever Adam, brilliant and well said.

    And you're right, it *does* get better. I was the nerdy kid in school. Now life is awesome, and that's due in large part to me learning to like my nerdy but awesome self!

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:04 PM
  • gl3bm

    if you cant say it to there face then shut up and keep it to yourself seriously. Its annoying to hear 10 year olds telling me that im gay and telling me to suck their wang when i kill them. Its really annoying seriously.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:04 PM
  • rWeso3

    Unfortunately, it seems that some, if not most, of the internet bullies are the ones that are the victims in the real world. I personally know someone who is one of those trash talkers on CoD:MW2. He used to get picked on relentlessly in school. He uses the mask of his avatar to put others down now as payback. Sadly, the best way to stop the online trash talk and internet bullies is to shut down the internet. But since the majority of the world would die in a fiery inferno that would only be second to the fires of Hades..... I don't see that happening anytime soon.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:03 PM
  • PlymouthUguy

    I wish that games and consoles should offer a better way to "Black List" such undesirables. These dicks will never willing give up the power they have to make others feel small. I saw it happen in high school, and in my career as a social worker nothing ever changes. I do hope that with the upcoming release of Black Ops and the ability to edit and post videos of your matches that you will be able to point out these problem players, but I'm rambling on.

    One point to make, but I own a PS3 and vulgarities is nowhere near as bad as what you find on Xbox Live since I've been playing Modern Warfare 2 over the past year I only had maybe 5-6 bad players.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 7:03 PM
  • NocturnalX

    This is why Sessler is God. I mean, I'm not religious or anything, but if I was, my religion may involve Adam Sessler...and Jedi

    Posted: October 12, 2010 6:48 PM
  • rraws

    Adam, that.....was.....amazing :)

    Posted: October 12, 2010 6:46 PM
  • Silent-hero

    Even out of the context of homosexuality or racism. People on the internet and online gaming should be courteous to the other people they are playing with.

    Even in the Virtual Realm Think before you speak, cause most of us gamers just want to have a good time regardless of how we play. If a person knows he or she might say something inappropriate please disconnect you headset....NOBODY wants to hear you.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 6:42 PM
  • Grublet

    "And when you wake up, everything is going to be fine.
    I guarantee you'll wake in a better place, a better place
    So you're tired of living, feel like you might give in.
    Well don't... It's not your time"
    -Streetlight Manifesto (A Better Place, A Better Time)

    That song has got me through a lot of tough parts of my life.(Especially High School)

    Posted: October 12, 2010 6:36 PM
  • tige995

    People people! Just unplug your headset! I have not listened to chatter in a game in forever. Dont empower the stupid in to making you quit a game you like. Mute button is your friend!!!

    Posted: October 12, 2010 6:24 PM
  • Severnik

    I've been handing out bad player reviews and filing complaints since day one. I pay to enjoy my games, not have some douche scream, shout, ruin my good time.

    Posted: October 12, 2010 6:24 PM