Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!

Posted: October 12, 2010
Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!
Adam talks about the recent incidents of violent bullying and compares it to behavior in online multiplayer games.

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  • drwest56

    Very Well Said Adam!! Amen to that. Also, good guys, he's right, it's time to stand up for what is right and not let the jerks rule the virtual waves. Remember, gaming should be fun, not offensive!

    Posted: October 13, 2010 12:34 PM
  • kingdean

    i agree with you sessler ive run into a lot of people who say unnecessary so ive made it an initiative to mute people who have mics in use who are not in my party i think if we all do it theyll eventually shut up when theres no one to talk to

    Posted: October 13, 2010 12:05 PM
  • SystemOvercast

    I have already come to terms with this problem and now I automatically mute everyone I don't know in the room. It may effect team play but I find it that it helps my sanity more.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 11:52 AM
  • sklorbit

    For the few moments Adam Sessler speaks of serious matters, he makes more sense than most of the hundreds of mainstream news reporters and writers out there. I love Adam on xplay; its my favorite show and I am always sad when either Morgan or he is not on the show. However, it is too bad that he can not also have a place in the mainstream media to express his oppinions. Many would not expect the host of a video game show would be such an intellectual!

    Posted: October 13, 2010 11:49 AM
  • xxxBroskixxx

    Well said Sessler

    Posted: October 13, 2010 11:47 AM
  • Greenlanturn9669

    I have to come clean in my on right. In middle school there was a kid in my class that I bullyed, a kid that i constantly picked merely for the fact that i didnt know any better i was just fighting with for the sack of just doing it. One day after we fought for the third time and were heading back to class after being scolded by the principel, he asked me a question. " Why are we even fighting?" and for the first time i actully thought about it and i cound not come up with an answer. Suffice to say i never messed with him agian an we actullay became friends. Becomeing his friend of course caused me to get bulled buy those brave enough to fight a 6"0 7th grader. After middle school i saw alot less bullying and kind of saw the world with new eyes. My new view caused me to stand up for those who would get bullyed during my highschool years. So i want to give one piece of advice and you dont have to follow it but keep it in mind. Sometimes you need to fight back im not saying to go out and buy a wepon to defend your self im just saying to stand up for yourself cause people are more lickly to help you if you show that you are not afraid.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 11:40 AM
  • SnapesonaPlane

    I think that dealing with online bullying is going to be a bit more complicated than having xbl (or any other service) issuing stricter penalties. I may hate the things that are said online, but there is a part of me that also hates the idea of punishing people for speaking their minds, no matter how immature and hurtful those minds may be. I think the trick is to set a positive example, to speak up to online swearing/yelling/homophobic bullies and show them that the majority of the online community neither agrees with them or is amused by them. I don't know that it'll work, but I think it's worth a shot before more official actions are taken.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 11:05 AM
  • Wakeman90125

    so free speech for games.. but not for gamers? sounds a little odd..

    oh, Richard Pryor was a "Wife Beater".. maybe he was just expressing himself?

    Posted: October 13, 2010 10:53 AM
  • DGlen

    Gamers of the world unite! Lets stop the constant harassment on all of our favorite games and put the bullies to shame. Its sad that what once was meant to help people enjoy gaming has been degraded to the point where even though pretty much everyone has a head set a good majority of the people do not even want to take the time to plug one in. I firmly believe that we could have one of the greatest chances for human interaction in history which allows us to be able to interact with people from all walks of life yet is left to a few who do nothing but annoy and bitch. So thanks Sess and please silent majority lets speak up and take back what is ours!!

    Posted: October 13, 2010 10:19 AM
  • Jeespot

    Well said Mr. Sessler. I was always a person who was a bit different, but I managed myself well enough to avoid getting picked on exssecively. I learned over the years how to become socially neutral and let it be known that I enjoy doing my own thing, but I can socialize well with all types of people and respect those who deserve it. But the amount of bullying and "digital harassment" is really ridiculous. I think as a nation it reflects highly on the insecurity level of both the kids and the parents that it stems from. To be truly respectful and appreciative to people it takes intelligence and humility, both are traits that need to be learned, and thats the problem. It is somewhat instinct to affiliate yourself to an arbitrary social class and look down on those who do not fit in, but it is a much more important HUMAN instinct to learn and adapt for our own survival, and that means to learn to respect one another (aka not have people committing suicide, opposite of survival). All in all what im trying to say is Adam, I agree with you that people like that deserve no rightful place on this planet as they are degenerative to our own species.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 10:03 AM
  • inferno959

    Things like this are completely ridiculous. Just last night I had a friend who got told in a message from some guy on her team online in Reach that she should go sell he game back and then kill herself......this was just cause she was playing badly. I can't even IMAGINE what those who are gay or lesbian or even bi go through.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 9:55 AM
  • alvin16

    adam you are my role model because i used to not want to go to school because of what these kids would say to me and one day a kid helped me and was realy big and told the bullys to just back off and i just cant thank him anof

    Posted: October 13, 2010 9:40 AM
  • wicked_god

    Look im 25 years old that's just old enough to see what has happened to the bullys from my school days. I used to get picked on and bullied all the time in my school i didn't have a social class i got along with most people who weren't dicks, Whick was 2 or 3 from each social class. There were bullys in every diffrent group and they all seemed to target me. That all stopped when my my aunt's boyfriend taught me how to fight. I only had 1 person fight me in my senior year i won and noone ever said anything to me again. But now There have been 2 that killed their kids and are in jail the ones who arent in jail work at my favorite convience store of course i don't say anything, Im better than that but it gives you a nice feeling when you can make them take your order now.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 8:32 AM
  • mundo26

    To person playing Halo, invert your control settings.
    I agree with a lot of what adam said. but i do think it has alot more to do then just how far networking has come along. I want to blame PARENTS and IMAGERY. Parents now a days treat there childern like friends,your child is not your friend he/she does not need to like you. I think alot of what is also wrong is Image/fads, Now a days if your not doing what everyone else is or look like these punk A$$ posers in the Mags or tv, your different.
    SAVE A CHILD FROM SUICIDE, START BEATING YOUR KIDS. i should copyright that...

    Posted: October 13, 2010 8:19 AM
  • Slayinfool

    I am a 34 year old gamer, tattoo artist, and school bus driver. The amount of bullying I see everyday driving a school bus is mind blowing. I went through it as a kid aswell untill one day I had enough which was an experience that changed my life from then on out for the better. The majority of kids I see however don't find that courage to finally say no. Recently I had a student bring a knife on the bus in an attempt to stop the bullying against him. Don't think he had the courage to use the knife thankfully, but it was his desparate attempt at trying to stop the pain he was going through on a daily basis. He was a good kid who made a bad choice. Unfortunately he was arrested and kicked out of school. The bullies I'm sure continue on however. My advice to anyone being bullied is speak up. Don't resort to violence, but tell someone, anyone. Don't be afraid to speak up, your not a coward for telling. No one has the right to bully you, and make you feel uncomfortable even in the smallest of ways.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 8:00 AM
  • Silky08

    Mr. Adam Sessler, you are awesome.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 7:39 AM
  • mybro92

    Sad to see people just cant be civil anymore. Great and powerful episode this week, always looking forward to future episodes.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 7:06 AM
  • 2ply

    Well said.

    Personally, I think it has more to do with it being the internet and not face to face, like Adam said, thought he was going to go further into that subject though.

    As a heavy mmo gamer, not a day goes by without seeing the idiocy that the internet enables. There's really no other explaination for what people can say or do other than it being the internet, and having no real accountibility for their own actions.

    Generally it kind of seems like an outlet to vent pent up anger for some, and most people don't view the others they are playing games with as real people (for some reason), therefore they tend to think what they say and do has no impact on someone else or even reflects themselves in the slightest.

    So I'd just like to add - the people you game with online are real and so are you, start behaving like it, we're all out to accomplish the same goal while playing a game, and that is just to have some fun.

    Posted: October 13, 2010 7:03 AM
  • Cantthink

    I have to put my hands up on this one, usually I swear get angry and rage alot while playing multiplayer games, I was also a bit of a bully at school. But I don't think some of the things I do or say could really effect anyone, Im not the ones that will tell people to go and die or make 'your mum' jokes. After watching this I will admit I do feel a little bad for somethings I've said to people, but then I have to say me and my friends some times greet each other with 'alright *&^%!' and the likes, so Is it really people bullying or is it a case of underage user's? now dont get me wrong if you follow sombody from room to room throwing insults there way and being real nasty and ruining there day thats way to much, but ive never seen that happen on Xbox live, its usally just a 'you're a noob' 'no you are' 'your mum didnt think so' anyone over the age of 15 is surly just going to laught that off right?

    just as a wrapping up to my wall O text, I will think in future about grifeing people over the net,


    Posted: October 13, 2010 5:36 AM
  • Massa Zack

    Well put Adam. Kudos

    Posted: October 13, 2010 5:09 AM