Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!

Posted: October 12, 2010
Sessler's Soapbox: Stop Being a Dick!
Adam talks about the recent incidents of violent bullying and compares it to behavior in online multiplayer games.

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  • RadioactiveTaco779

    Pretty much ALL of the bullying in the world occurs over the internet or some other online service (xbox live, psn, etc.). I mean, I haven't been called a crude name in school for the last 3 years or so, which is surprising seeing as I'm in high school (which one would expect to be the epicenter of such events), but I've had every insult in the book thrown at me during my travels through xbox live. Its also makes me sick to see that to be popular or to have friends both online and in life, you have to be a total douche. I have barley ANY friends in school because I'm polite to the "un-popular" people. So lately I've been trying the "bully to the bully" thing and I've gotten back at a few of those a-holes. And I plan to do some more of it. I agree with papa sess completely, enough is enough.

    Posted: October 19, 2010 2:47 PM
  • Keerplop

    It's easy to cure when I host, as I normally do, as I tell people to stop giving that person/persons crap and if they continue then they are gone and blocked. When I am not hosting it seems like I am the only one that ever seems to step up to the bullies, but I believe the reason is that it is much harder for younger people for fear of retaliation. It doesn't bother me if some jerk puts his effort on me, it takes it off the person being bullied. There has always been people that bully, it's just easier to find them now.

    Posted: October 19, 2010 2:27 PM
  • ShadowViper87

    I've got so sick of douchebags that i jus mute every1 in the room i don't know. Its absolutely ridiculous that every game u play u get stuck with that at least one dick who jus has to talk crap, and its pointless talking back to them cuz they enjoy that u r getting upset. What make me feel better is knowing that i'm better than those people in every way

    Posted: October 19, 2010 8:58 AM
  • Agent 47

    Microsoft and Sony really need to be more pro-active in dealing with this problem. The reporting system that XBox Live I swear is useless. I frequently call out players for that kind of crap but nothing ever seems to be done about it.
    I was bullied in middle school and high school. The school did nothing to stop it. I had to put an end to it by beating the living crap out of the bullies several times over. It shouldn't have taken force but I didn't have any other options. The school just didn't care. Now it feels like Microsoft and Sony are doing the same thing as the schools are; nothing.

    Posted: October 18, 2010 11:45 PM
  • sgt_oxx

    I remember having my teeth knocked in when my fellow student sucker punched me on a moving bus for the simple fact that I was new to the school. This being said, I did stand up for myself and retaliated by kicking this little prick in the back while he was retreating after realizing that his actions had merely pissed my off right before the bus driver robbed me of my personal justice by pulling me off him later. Needless to say, there were short and long term consequences to my actions such as the immediate embarrassment of having a bloodied and bashed face to the irritating lectures my father gave me.

    However, with the introduction of this new online median we are free to defend ourselves without as many consequences. In fact, I believe that we are now looking at a whole new era of personal justice from bullies that past generations never could have even dreamed of. It s no longer a matter of brawn it s all brain. Revenge of the nerds has come to pass! This being said, it s no longer the bigger kid who s the school bully it s the bigger nerd. Yet, I believe that this change can be a double edged sword, greater intelligence means a higher potential for extreme cruelty and malice. Now that I think about it, I don t know what s worse a dumb bully or a smart bully. Okay, I take this back; greater intelligence for most people is bad thing not good.

    Posted: October 18, 2010 8:20 PM
  • ABCgum64

    I can understand this. I was one though that didn't tolerate bullying, and got very pissed at people who wanted to mess with me in high school. Basically, I stood up for myself and those around me. It's also how you handle it, though easy for me to say.

    For the online part of it, games now have an option to mute a single person if you wish. You can also leave bad feedback, or even report (like sess said). Hope this helps to those who are having a hard time. Stick up for yourself, and don't be afraid to get into a fight if you have to (though don't be the one to sart it). Just defend yourself, emotionally and physically.

    Posted: October 18, 2010 2:38 PM
  • mystress

    This is one of those subjects people hate to talk about because no one knows where the blame lies. Is it the person who's doing the bullying or is it the parents fault for not monitoring their kids behaviors on and offline? (That is if they are under 18.) At 18 though when it continues, once again the question arises how did they start doing so? Were they bullied and just decided the whole hey if you can't beat em join em or what.
    People are afraid to stand up because they are afraid that these so called bullies (who are usually the ones that didn't get enough attention as a kid.) will turn the heat on them as well, if it's offline they're afraid to step in especially if there's violence because they are afraid of getting hurt. If I see things happening I step in. I remember in high school I stepped into a few rings of bullying to stop it, it just wasn't right. Was I afraid, you damn right, if I got a busted lip or a broken nose oh well it's the price I paid though for helping someone who didn't deserve to get picked on just because they wore hand me down clothes, or had a scar in a funny place. Did I ever suffer from a broken nose... no because when a person actually has the balls to step up the bully usually steps back because they lose a little bit of that power.

    Posted: October 18, 2010 10:59 AM
  • Skyclad

    Awesome job, Adam. I've been a fan of yours for years and am consistantly impressed with your wide range of knowledge on even fringe topics like this one that involve gaming. I've posted your soapbox's from time to time on message boards where people who have heard of you but never seen you watched them and they were impressed too. This is an important issue and not many people in the gaming industry will look at it as you just did here.

    Also, awesome Richard Pryor shirt.

    Posted: October 18, 2010 7:27 AM
  • FaerieFyre

    Thanks for the great topic, Adam. I sent you a message via the X-Play email address. Hope it reaches you. This is something that really had to be said.

    Posted: October 18, 2010 1:22 AM
  • RonmarTheOnly

    Quite surprised that no one has commented this, and yet in another fashion, I'm not really all that surprised that no one has commented this.

    Adam really hits this topic well in this soapbox, and as he says, it is a heavy topic, but one that needs to be addressed.

    I recently had a conversation with a coworker about homosexuality, and she, using her religion as a crux as to why it is a choice (and inherently wrong in her opinion), asked me why I cared so much to defend homosexuality. She was quite certain I wasn't gay and assumed that instead I must have a gay relative, which must change my viewpoint. I do have a gay relative (didn't actually realize that till a year or two ago, it just never really was a concern of mine), but I told her that wasn't the reason.

    The reason I, and people in general, should stand up for such causes is that the other side needs some voice, especially when that other side might cower under pressure from others based on what they believe or how they act. We all need to be stronger people, in the meantime we should at least stand up for people.

    Posted: October 17, 2010 10:12 PM
  • Florenxia

    It's nice to see the world isn't full of dumbasses (as it may sometimes appear) (:

    Posted: October 17, 2010 7:33 PM
  • kaiachi

    and people wonder why there are so many people afraid to speak there mind in life. sometimes you state your beliefs only to have someone come along and completely shoot you down. a complete stranger, someone you've never meet in your life comes along and just because he doesn't agree with what you have to say, he makes you feel like the biggest idiot in the world and belittles you to the point that you feel worthless. or tries to at least. the first thing that comes to my mind when i think when i see someone like that is "is this guy married, is he a kid who doesn't know any better or is he just some manboy who failed to grow up and sits in front of his computer in his moms basement playing WOW." I pity those people and i ALWAYS step in when i see someone getting bullied.

    yes I was bullied when i was a kid. it was racial bullying. i had the worst things done to me that any person can have done to them at age 12. that wound never healed and probably never will. that is why i never back down from any bully or let any bully pick on anyone within my visual range. I know what its like. someone should always be there to step in.

    Posted: October 17, 2010 3:10 PM
  • The Monkey King

    The internet definitely brings out the worst in people. I agree that the anonymity plays a large part in how people behave and act towards other online. I think it is the lack of consequence for the most part that is a main reason why people do and say what they do. There aren't enough measures in place to dish out punishment to the people who bully and insult others blatantly on the internet.

    Yes, there's the reputation and reporting system on (for example) XBox Live, but how much of that is actually investigated? It's been said that the XBL team takes reports of hacking and modding seriously, but what about cyber bullying? How many a-holes have been banned because of something hurtful they've said?

    Posted: October 17, 2010 2:53 PM
  • metelhead_9000

    Bravo Adam

    Posted: October 17, 2010 12:42 PM
  • KilledFirst

    Adam I don't think you pointed out that these bullies don't necessarily play video games. These violent acts towards others has nothing to do with video games. Most of it, if not all of it is about ATTENTION. Bullies are a lot like the girl with the rep of being easy, it's all about getting attention. They don't care whether it's positive or negative, as long as it's attention. Young adults craving attention, and once they get that attention, it serves to create a lust for more. The solution is simple, but you can't force others to not find entertainment in the suffering of others when you're talking about kids. It's funny to see others abused in a public sense, or at least that's the way school society carries itself.

    I was the new kid in my school, and I was the prime candidate for the bullies. They gave up quickly because my sarcastic remarks they had no answer for but physical attacks, (I think I made fun of every aspect of their assaults) leaving them embarrassed and defeated. A quick witted mind goes a long way when dealing with bullies, and the best thing you can do is ignore them. Not really as hard as it sounds, we all had our happy place as kids we used for an escape. Just place yourself there and before you know it the bullying lessons, and will swiftly fade away.

    Posted: October 17, 2010 11:20 AM
  • Elliott_Ness

    Internet + Anonymity + Morale Deficit = Complete Douchebag

    Posted: October 17, 2010 9:43 AM
  • moosebutton

    wow, so glad you made this vid. im a sophomore in high school rite now and every little thing just pisses me off now. after 9 years of being the nerd who gets sh$t for wearing shoes with batman symbols drawn on my converse, and liking star wars, its great to see something like this to pull me through a little bit more. makes things easier, really. whos frikin business is it if i like star wars?! time for people to stop doing things just to impress others. but anyways, thanks Adam. Great work!

    Posted: October 16, 2010 11:51 PM
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    Posted: October 16, 2010 10:18 PM
  • SSBBfreak

    I liked this episode. I was picked on in elementary school but when I got to middle school people just stopped talking shiz to me. What helped me was very simple. I DID NOT GIVE TWO SHiizS ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THOUGHT OF ME. I am a strange guy there is no question about that, but when you get older you find that diversity is very refreshing. To bring this all to a point, a lot of people pick on other people in order to be noticed by the jackass cool kids. F-em if you are insecure enough to join a group of bullies chances are that you were once picked on. If you want to join the larger crowd and conform than realize this. Their are more people who get picked on than their are people who pick on others. So break the illusion and STOP BEING A D!

    Posted: October 16, 2010 10:17 PM
  • HE1RO

    If im gaming, i jes tell everyone to mute that person, no reason to set there and take it, and after that, everyone can talk about how dumb he was acting.

    I agree with Sessler too, but bullying through a mic or a post is really juvenile, and letting that get to you seems juvenile to me too, i understand if someone is bashing something or someone you care about and you get frustrated at them, but dont argue back because you are letting them win.

    The people that do that just do it because they feel like they have no consequences for what they are saying, maybe if they found out the kid they called some name committed suicide the next day, they might think before they start spewing profanity.

    I cuss when i get killed sometimes, but i don't aim it towards a person who killed me and try to make them mad, its almost like stubbing my toe on my entertainment center that realllly hurts, it just happens.

    I read somewhere that when u use profanity, you just don't know the right words to truly express the way you feel..

    Posted: October 16, 2010 11:33 AM