In Your Pants - Talkin Dirty

Posted: March 4, 2008
In Your Pants - Talkin Dirty

Everyone's favorite pretty lady who talks about sexual issues is back! Anna David will be here live in the studio to answer your questions.

Here's what Anna David has to say about herself:

"Anna David has been on staff at Premiere and Parenting, was a fulltime freelancer at People, wrote a sex and relationship column for Razor, and has also been published in Details, Playboy, Cosmo, Maxim, Stuff, Redbook, Teen Vogue, The LA Times, Vanity Fair, Variety, People, Us Weekly, TV Guide,The New York Post, Tatler, Esquire UK, Movieline, LA Confidential, Vegas, and Ocean Drive, among many others.

She's a pop culture expert for The Today Show, appears regularly on Fox Reality Channel's Reality Remix, and has also been featured on ESPN's Cold Pizza, Fox's The Best Damn Sports Show Period, NBC's The Other Half, The Style Network's Modern Girl's Guide to Life, and a collection of shows on VH1 and E! Her first novel, Party Girl, is out now." Read on to see Anna's answers to today's questions.

I really like it when girls talk dirty. How can I get my girlfriend to open up? I mean, she likes it, and she makes all kinds of noise and stuff, but I want her to talk dirty more. How do I bring this up with her without sounding like a creep?

I think this is definitely a case where showing and not telling is the way to go. The first thing you can do is try talking dirty to her and see how she responds to it. While it tends to turn most people on, there are certainly girls (not to mention boys) who will be turned off completely by it. If she seems to respond well, you can always encourage her to do it back to you.

But plenty of women out there who are completely game for some tit for tat bedroom talk can't actually think of where to start. So you can try making suggestions: "Tell me you like it when I (fill in the blank)," etc. Keep in mind, however, that even with dialogue provided, she may still be too self-conscious or embarrassed to do this. So put it out there but be willing to suck it up if she can't comply.


I love my girlfriend, I really do. But lately I find myself more and more attracted to her best friend. I even think about her sometimes when we are doing it. I don’t want her friend; I just want the feelings to stop. How can I overcome this?

You can overcome it by realizing that it's not about how hot your girlfriend's friend is: it's about retreating from intimacy with the girl you're with. We tend to get turned on by what's taboo and since having sex with your girl's best friend would probably have catastrophic consequences, then that certainly qualifies as taboo.

So, remind yourself that this is your mind screwing with you and that acting on this impulse would be the worst move you could make. And, who knows, maybe it's time to try spicing up your sex life with your girlfriend by incorporating some of your fantasies into what you're doing (though none that involve the best friend!)


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