Everyone's favorite pretty lady who talks about sexual issues is back! Anna David will be here live in the studio to answer your questions.
Here's what Anna David has to say about herself:
"Anna David has been on staff at Premiere and Parenting, was a fulltime freelancer at People, wrote a sex and relationship column for Razor, and has also been published in Details, Playboy, Cosmo, Maxim, Stuff, Redbook, Teen Vogue, The LA Times, Vanity Fair, Variety, People, Us Weekly, TV Guide,The New York Post, Tatler, Esquire UK, Movieline, LA Confidential, Vegas, and Ocean Drive, among many others.
She's a pop culture expert for The Today Show, appears regularly on Fox Reality Channel's Reality Remix, and has also been featured on ESPN's Cold Pizza, Fox's The Best Damn Sports Show Period, NBC's The Other Half, The Style Network's Modern Girl's Guide to Life, and a collection of shows on VH1 and E! Her first novel, Party Girl, is out now." Read on to see Anna's answers to today's questions.
My girlfriend always sleeps in the same old shirt. I don’t want to say anything, but it bugs me. Should I buy her some lingerie or something?
I would say that buying her lingerie that turns you on is most definitely the way to go on this one. But also remember that she may simply like sleeping in something that's comfortable and cozy and thus may not slip into Victoria's Secret even if you wrap it up with a nice bow.
If you're not interested in going out and buying her something (or if you do and she still doesn’t take the hint), you can always broach the topic carefully. Tell her how attracted you are to her and how much you'd love to see her look as sexy as she possibly can.
But also keep in mind that as relationships evolve, they're less about the woman being dolled up in head-to-toe La Perla and more about mutual exchange and comfort. Do you want to see her look like a sex goddess at night because you're trying to enliven the relationship or are disappointed by how monotonous it's gotten? It's okay if that's the case but you might want to consider your motivations as you try to get her to do what you want.
Me and my girl a have a long distance relationship because I am in school, but we live in the same state. She likes to keep me on the phone for 30-40 mins. at a time but I cant handle all the talking at one time. What should I do?
I think you just tell her. Some guys just aren’t talkers -- particularly phone talkers -- and most girls can keep anyone on the horn for hours at a time. So the next time you're getting into one of your never-ending conversations, just tell her, "Baby, I love you but I've got to go blank" -- and fill in the blank with whatever you have to go do. (Though try not to make it "play video games" or "watch TV" or something that sounds unimportant.)
It sounds like this is a significant boundary for you to set and there's certainly no rule that says any guy in a relationship with a girl who lives in the same state but a different town is required to stay on the phone for X amount of time. It also may be worth considering, however, that you may somehow be scared of getting closer to her. Are you more closed off than she is? Do girls often tell you that they want more from you than you seem willing to give?
If so, it may be worth examining your side of the street here. Most relationship problems, however, tend to be solved by compromise so I'd suggest both being firmer with her when you want to get off the phone and giving her a little more time. Who knows? Maybe you'll discover the hidden pleasures of gabbing on the phone for hours at a time and she'll end up begging to get off.