Everyone's favorite pretty lady who talks about sexual issues is back! Anna David will be here live in the studio to answer your questions.
Here's what Anna David has to say about herself:
"Anna David has been on staff at Premiere and Parenting, was a fulltime freelancer at People, wrote a sex and relationship column for Razor, and has also been published in Details, Playboy, Cosmo, Maxim, Stuff, Redbook, Teen Vogue, The LA Times, Vanity Fair, Variety, People, Us Weekly, TV Guide,The New York Post, Tatler, Esquire UK, Movieline, LA Confidential, Vegas, and Ocean Drive, among many others.
She's a pop culture expert for The Today Show, appears regularly on Fox Reality Channel's Reality Remix, and has also been featured on ESPN's Cold Pizza, Fox's The Best Damn Sports Show Period, NBC's The Other Half, The Style Network's Modern Girl's Guide to Life, and a collection of shows on VH1 and E! Her first novel, Party Girl, is out now." Read on to see Anna's answers to today's questions.
My girlfriend cheated on me. We worked through it, but now I feel like our sex life is just “off”. I can’t quite explain it. Can you guys give me some advice as to how to get my groove back?
I don't blame you for feeling like things are off ever since your girlfriend cheated. While I definitely believe that couples can work through cheating incidents, I think doing that is slightly more complicated than people tend to believe.
It sounds like you have either internalized the belief that the reason she cheated on you is that you weren't providing something she needed sexually. And more often than not, I don’t think this is the case. People cheat because they're scared of how intimate a relationship is becoming or has become. They may call it boredom or temptation or any number of things but the fact is, it usually means that something is wrong with the person who cheated and not the person they cheated on.
If she confessed, which it sounds like she did, that's a good sign that she regretted what she did and doesn't intend to do it again. No matter how unappealing it might sound, perhaps you guys need to talk about what happened some more until you get to the point where you trust her again. If this doesn't get your sex life back on track, it may be worth considering the fact that she may not be the girl for you. Who knows? You may be able to find yourself one who will remain devoted to you.
What do you guys expect on a first date, like what's the ideal guy do on a first date?
If I like a guy, the best thing he can do on a first date is confidently select a place. I personally don’t care if he picks me up or I meet him somewhere (if it’s a first date, it might be too soon to tell him where I live) so long as he confidently tells me where he thinks we should go and confirms I'm okay with it.
Being on time is also a requirement; I'll never forget the blind date I had with the guy who was 30 minutes late and showed up saying, "Now don't you dare guilt trip me about being late." Dinner -- or whatever the two of you are doing -- should be an equal exchange of information; we've all been out with the guy who never stops talking and doesn't seem remotely interested in asking questions as well as the one on the other end of the spectrum who has nothing to say and expects the girl to carry the conversation burden.
And then, of course, if we end up kissing, Ideal Guy is amazing at it -- just the right amount of pressure and tongue. A text when he gets home or an email I can wake up to the next morning telling me what a nice time he had also earns high marks.