Everyone's favorite pretty lady who talks about sexual issues is back! Anna David will be here live in the studio to answer your questions.
Here's what Anna David has to say about herself:
"Anna David has been on staff at Premiere and Parenting, was a fulltime freelancer at People, wrote a sex and relationship column for Razor, and has also been published in Details, Playboy, Cosmo, Maxim, Stuff, Redbook, Teen Vogue, The LA Times, Vanity Fair, Variety, People, Us Weekly, TV Guide,The New York Post, Tatler, Esquire UK, Movieline, LA Confidential, Vegas, and Ocean Drive, among many others.
She's a pop culture expert for The Today Show, appears regularly on Fox Reality Channel's Reality Remix, and has also been featured on ESPN's Cold Pizza, Fox's The Best Damn Sports Show Period, NBC's The Other Half, The Style Network's Modern Girl's Guide to Life, and a collection of shows on VH1 and E! Her first novel, Party Girl, is out now." Click here to order Party Girl from Amazon and look below to see a video for her literary gem and to read her answers to today's questions.
I’m curious about how someone can be bad at sex? I know it’s not as simple as some say it is, but it isn’t as complicated either. What makes someone a bad lover?
There are as any ways to be a bad lover as there are flavors of ice cream (on the bright side, there are just as many, if not more, ways to be good). You can be too fast and furious or too slow and deliberate, too into the dirty talk or too quiet, too selfish or too obsessed with bringing the other person to orgasm. In other words, what one person loves the next person hates so my perception of a bad lover is going to be different from someone else's.
Rather than focusing on what you think the person you're in bed with will think is good (since you have no way of knowing what that is until you've been sleeping with her for a while and she's either told you or you've figured it out based on how she responds to certain things), concentrate on being true to your sexuality and doing onto others what you would like done onto you.
That being said, there are obvious road signs to obey: obviously don't pressure anyone into anything (there's nothing quite as un-erotic as a guy you don't know if you want to give oral sex starting to push your head down as a way of indicating he wants it) and try to feel out how conservative or open-minded she is before busting out your more radical moves.
Also, a few moves that will probably work on most women: whispering how attracted you are to her, saying her name when you're excited and peppering her body with sweet kisses.
Hi Anna & Olivia – What’s your favorite sexual position and why?
I don’t mean to be boring here but I'm going to have to go with missionary. I'd love to be able to tell you that hanging from the ceiling upside down while the guy is somehow perpendicularly attached is my all-time favorite but that would be an outright lie.
Without getting too graphic, I'll just say that the missionary position allows both the guy and girl to share control -- the guy because he's on top and the girl because she can grab him from behind and take the lead a bit. Keep in mind, however, that most women say they prefer being on top because they like the feeling of being able to control the movements and penetration level.
And if you're in that position and want to help the woman you're with to have an orgasm, you can always try stimulating her clitoris with your hand.