In Your Pants

Everyone's favorite pretty lady who talks about sexual issues is back! Anna David will be here live in the studio to answer your questions.

Here's what Anna David has to say about herself:

"Anna David has been on staff at Premiere and Parenting, was a fulltime freelancer at People, wrote a sex and relationship column for Razor, and has also been published in Details, Playboy, Cosmo, Maxim, Stuff, Redbook, Teen Vogue, The LA Times, Vanity Fair, Variety, People, Us Weekly, TV Guide,The New York Post, Tatler, Esquire UK, Movieline, LA Confidential, Vegas, and Ocean Drive, among many others. She's a pop culture expert for The Today Show, appears regularly on Fox Reality Channel's Reality Remix, and has also been featured on ESPN's Cold Pizza, Fox's The Best Damn Sports Show Period, NBC's The Other Half, The Style Network's Modern Girl's Guide to Life, and a collection of shows on VH1 and E! Her first novel, Party Girl, is coming out June 1, 2007." Click here to pre-order Party Girl from Amazon.

Click below for Anna's answers to today's questions!

How do I ask a girl if she has any STDs without offending her?

This is such a good – and important -- question because most people flinch at the mere notion of considering whether or not they could have a sexually transmitted disease when the fact is that in this day and age, anyone could be carrying almost anything and, in many cases, have no idea. So I’d start the conversation exactly the way you began the question – by saying that you in no way mean this as a reflection on or judgment about her past but that you’ve heard enough horror stories about STD’s to want to be as careful as you possibly can. The most important thing to remember about STD’s is that they can take up to six months to show up so if you want to be as safe as you possibly can, wait six months before exchanging bodily fluids or letting the petting get too heavy (or, at the very least, wait that long before giving up the condoms) and then go and get tested for everything together. But as for your conversation with the girl, emphasize how much your concern is about being aware and not about her and you may well get points for being such a conscientious guy.

I am not really that big and I’m nervous that when I do have sex, it’s not long enough to perform. Do you have any tips?

There’s an expression about how it’s not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean that’s relevant here. In other words, wow her with your skills in other areas, and she may not even notice your size. And remember that oral sex is your friend, so try to get as good as you can at that (after all, nobody cares how wide or long your tongue is). There are also several sex positions that ensure stimulation for the woman no matter how small the man. The most common of those is doggie style, but also try positions where you’re on top and her legs are lifted in the air (either straight up or with her knees at her ears). Also, keep in mind that while many women like the look of big penises, most also find them painful to have sex with. In other words, despite what society tells us, bigger isn’t always better.